I can’t let Maria at Change Diapers have all the Meme fun–she has a 3 part series you can click here to start off with: Cloth Diaper Memes!
One occurred to me, and I thought I’d share with you…
I wrote a little while back about the insanity that’s taking place in cloth diapering circles. It’s a humorous piece giving let’s just say a cartoonish voice to things you wish you could say during one of these dramatic encounters. Zoinks! If the picture above looks familiar, then you’ve probably already seen it, if not, then click the following link to see my post to END DIAPER DRAMA. I actually kind of thought that it was a one time thing, but lately it seems like drama is getting to be the norm. Some of this stems from limited edition cloth diapers. Now, certain manufacturers have always had limited edition or low release diapers, but they were WAHMs or true unicorn diapers (unreachable by almost everyone because of their rarity and expense), but now some major brands are getting on the LE bandwagon. When you bring that unicorn notion to the mainstream, especially at regular prices, that’s when the real drama begins. Over diapers, really? So the question is, does this help or hinder the cloth diaper world? Yes, we have our own world.
For manufacturers, the limited edition provides many positives:
- Hype. Let’s face it, drama = serious $$$. Yes, like Cabbage Patch in 1984 and Tickle Me Elmo in 1997, people are FIGHTING over these limited edition diapers. “Everyone” wants the it diaper and must have it. Everyone know it’s coming, but not when! People are saving their hard earned cash for months until that special day that a certain print finally is released….and whether you like it or not, you might just press that ‘buy now’ button. Because you don’t to want to regret not buying it, right?
- It sells itself: It’s a great way to influx cash with basically no marketing. Your customers do it for you.
- New customer retention: If you miss this one, then there’s always another one coming, and it keeps people hanging on waiting to see what’s next-especially if they’re new to cloth diapering.
- No leftover stock. We’ve all seen the attempts to get rid of failed colors-buy $x get this color free, here’s a package of one diaper you want and 2 that no one really wants! With a set number of diapers, plenty will be disappointed, but the manufacturers won’t to be stuck with them five years later, either.
- Influence in the retailer community: There’s got to be a lot of schmoozing happening by the retailers who want to get the release stocked ASAP, get more diapers per batch, be considered first in line for shipments, etc. We’re humans, and on some level, being in demand feels good.
There are some obvious negatives, mostly for the rest of the community:
- Creation of a scalper’s market: Good for the scalper, bad for anyone who wants one at retail and can’t get it.
- Poor customer service: It’s hard to replace a limited edition diaper that has manufacturer defects if there aren’t any left.
- Retailer tension: If you’re not picked for a release or get fewer diapers, customers won’t flock to you the next time around. There are easily 10x as many people looking for a print to stock at retailers than they can possibly supply. It puts the burden of crashed websites, items
stolenre-listed out of a person’s cart who isn’t fast enough with the credit card number entry, all on them. They take the heat from all the disappointed would-be buyers who have a bad taste in their mouths. Which leads to….
- The ‘bad taste in the mouth’ phenomena which takes several forms:
- The poor getting poorer–people who can’t afford a diaper until the end of the month, have slow internet, don’t have a retail store close by, etc. These people are going to end up feeling like losers at some point. It breeds contempt. Especially if they
have to choose to decide topay a scalper’s price for it a week, a month, a year later.
- Brand loyalist alienation–those people with every single color and print, those double rainbows that go unfulfilled, that’s a bitter pill to swallow.
- Hard to impress–these are the people that have been around for a while. They might be on their 2nd or 3rd child and just looking for something fun. They have money to spend, but they’re not impressed by every single thing out there. They want it to be special. Since tastes vary so widely, it’s hard to capture these old-timers attentions. They don’t want to be in the fray. It’s annoying. They have better things to do than sit by the computer and stalk each store as it stocks in somewhat frenzied desperation. They’re the old guard– and they’re not happy that diapering has become a competition and something to fight over. They see their hard-won community crumbling into a mess of nay-saying newbies and bragging, ‘I got it first, see our OTB shot’ before half the internet even knows there’s a new print out there. It’s disheartening.
- The poor getting poorer–people who can’t afford a diaper until the end of the month, have slow internet, don’t have a retail store close by, etc. These people are going to end up feeling like losers at some point. It breeds contempt. Especially if they
So what have we learned from all of this? The few people that have delamination issues or broken snaps on a new favorite are going to be heartbroken and disillusioned. The alienated brand loyalists and old guard (been there done that) are going to likely start mentioning other brands when they are confronted with those new to cloth instead of suggesting brands that seem unattainable. Will there be a fallout? Perhaps. It will be something that’s chipped away at a little at a time. But, since the hype is way more potent than the loyally discontent? It seems like limited editions are here to stay. Those few negatives aren’t enough to outweigh the positives that make big bucks for a brand. Are they good for the industry as a whole? That remains to be seen. In order to find out about these LE’s, you have to join specific groups or stalk certain websites. These sites are not always positive. Who really wants to join in a cultural movement where people are nasty to each other? Where the only group you might join fights all the time and attacks other moms for a purchase, for selling something, for not selling something, for having an opinion that isn’t the same as yours? Where just a few years ago there was a strong community of people who enjoyed sharing information, it’s become a knock-down drag out where the more seasoned stay away, because there’s nothing for them. Instead of being warmly welcomed or helped when you have wash issues, the first response is ‘what do you have to sell? any hard to finds?’ not ‘let me help you troubleshoot’…. you might be drawing in more people because of the hype, you’re less likely to have them stay because of the tone of the overall community. I’ll leave the conclusions up to you.
Remembering that this is a page that requests kindness…What do you think?
Is it just me, or didn’t summer used to last forever? From the time the dampness of spring rains settled into a blazing heat, we played all day, running in and out of doors, sneaking popsicles from the freezer, carrying errant kittens helter-skelter, tracing words in the dirt… for hours and hours until it was time to eat dinner. There was never anything on TV but we were never bored. Then back out we’d run, checking on the horses, stopping for minutes at a time to watch a butterfly poised on a flower, and seeing justhowclosewecouldsneakuponitbeforeitflewaway…. never, never close enough! Now it’s mid-July and normally I would think of fall not starting until late September when it starts to cool off, but we’re having our long extended summer cut short by–duh duh duhhhhh!
Back to school! *sob*
This will be our first time with a child in the school system. Our voracious reader taught herself how to tie her shoes after I explained it twice maybe–several months apart. She can easily tell time, run an ipad (although gets to do very little of that)… and stuck with mom through lessons about adding and subtracting so that I have no doubt she’ll be completely bored to tears in Kindergarten. Sorry teachers?!? We won’t know anything at all until the first weekend of August which might give us 2 weeks to track down all the supplies, clothes, etc. needed for the year. Can I just.. hire a babysitter? Life happens and it’s not always easy to get things done like create awesome breakfasts when you have 3 kids to get ready to drive or walk, but likely drive… appx 1/2 mile to the bus stop:
So anyway, back to our update, during the first half of summer, we went to bible school and learned more about Jesus. We also learned about not pinching our fingers in the hinge of the heavy bathroom door at church. We were sent home with some pretty awesome music CD’s the kids love. The only CD player is in the truck. He he. They are quiet when I play it except for requesting their favorite tracks. Woohoo! The adults and baby attended a church conference.
Casey was the conference mascot (just kidding, but everyone adored her!) while the big kids stayed with my folks for a while. My niece visited after the baby’s baptism. We saw fireworks, Keeley was in her pageant, waved to hundreds of people from a convertible and soaked up her 3rd runner up win. I think she learned some great lessons about dealing with other adults, which is important. Brennan has been along for the ride, and Casey handles everything with a ‘just feed me mom’ attitude. Easy peasy. We’ve started 2 reading programs and concluded one today. 2 stuffed Clifford the big red dogs, a watergun, tickets for 3 different events, and a couple dozen free books came home with us. We reads lots of stories, ate cupcakes in the shape of paw prints, saw working dogs of various types (therapy and K-9) and did many other random things. We watched Disney Junior, and tried to keep up with Casey trying to crawl, and of course have sent the kids outside to play as much as possible. We started a garden and have had a few cherry tomatoes to munch. Now that I think about it, it’s really been a whirlwind!
As summer carries on, we’ll finish up the other library program (as much as I love it, unless we have more cooperation next year, we’ll only do one), do more harvesting, mow more grass, plant more trees, have more surprise popsicles and start the dreaded countdown. The more I think about it, the more I worry, so I’m trying not to think about it. I know homeschooling is easily an option we could undertake if necessary, but I’m kind of looking forward to having some time dedicated to the non-brunettes in the family. As independent as Keeley is, she’s still bossy, still picks on the 2 year old, and thus garners way more than her fair share of attention. I have a blonde who needs to learn
how to read her letter sounds for pre-reading, to get BACK on a good nap schedule after being derailed with tantrums at naptime for months, and baby who needs a break from the LOUDNESS! Hopefully we can also do all the things that have been on the bucket list for 3 summers: hit the zoo, some museums, etc. etc. before K goes to school. Wait, that’s the imaginary bucket list. Right? Because who has time to make an actual list?
When I started cloth diapering, I didn’t understand. I really didn’t. I happily replied to those having stink issues ‘oh well microfiber works fine for me’– in my 4 month old’s ebf poo washed in town water heavily softened so it’s nearly perfect! Then we moved and our water changed. That cr@p got real — really fast. For those of you who I may have inadvertently brushed off 5 years ago in my new mom euphoria, I sincerely apologize. Ewww. I discovered that the diapers with the organic cotton inserts washed and stayed cleaner better than the ones with microfiber inserts. No matter how I softened, stripped, washed with harsh detergents, and bleached, bleached, bleached, the smell came back. I had ENOUGH. One of the reasons we switched to cloth diapers (and there were many) was the chemical smell and possible chemical stew that came from using disposables. If we couldn’t get these admittedly super thirsty fabrics clean in a brand new top loading machine with bleach and harsh chemicals (which, wait, now we’re putting THAT on our baby instead?!?) then we needed a change!
To what you may ask? Most modern pocket diapers come with 1 or 2 microfiber inserts standard. What’s the alternative?
In doing some research I found that other people had more luck with simpler, easy to wash cotton flat diapers. The kind grandma used to use! Say what? I didn’t want to give up my awesome colors and prints or the ease of pocket diapers, though, and my baby had sensitive skin, so I switched to flat diapers — as pocket diaper inserts and have never looked back. Read more about why FLATS are my favorite diaper inserts HERE! Seeing some results from the RDA that there was more yeast growth on microfiber than cotton, and knowing of course that if the inserts didn’t have strict attention paid to them that things got ugly really fast, it got me to thinking: what’s really in that ‘cloth’?!?
Compare them to a cotton flat (like a tea towel, but better!) and you’ll realize that they’re man made and have a lot of non-fabric components to them. They’re.. dare I say it? Plastic-y! Huh. It turns out, that tagline made famous several years age ‘not your grandma’s cloth diapers’ has a double meaning. Microfiber, though modern, really isn’t always your friend. It shouldn’t be used against baby’s skin! The more I thought about it, the more I realized it was more like plastic, and less like cloth. It even repels moisture until pressed, which is why so many people want to automatically strip their diapers if they do an ‘absorption test’ because it simply beads up–but there’s a double whammy, because it can also press back OUT and lead to compression leaks — like in a car seat! So why is microfiber used? It’s cheap!
After weeding out all my microfiber and trying to strip them one more time for donation, I decided I wouldn’t ship them to anyone else for them to try and salvage. After use on 1-2 babies and in harsh conditions, they had flattened beyond belief, held smell despite intense stripping and quite frankly, didn’t pass the sniff test. My problem to deal with, not anyone else’s. My husband asked what else could be done with them. I asked if we wanted to put around 30 inserts that still smelled like pee into rotation as mop pads or anything else. He agreed with me that it was time to let them go. Their life, while useful, was over.
Like any good country girl that has something she can’t recycle, use as a rag, compost, and doesn’t want to send to the landfill, I requested a bonfire*. Yes, I torched my microfiber inserts. Now before there is a riot going on in the comments about re-purposing them, etc. I will repeat that these were END OF LIFE inserts. Done. So despite wanting to be green and eco friendly and etc. we got rid of them along with a pair of inappropriately holey jeans, a raggedy wash cloth that mildew smell wouldn’t come out of after the 5th consecutive year of wiping tiny hands and faces, cardboard boxes we hadn’t recycled and some good old-fashioned fallen tree.
I was actually really interested to see
those b@stards go up in flames how they burned, especially compared to the other cloth items. Except. They melted. Think end of campfire meal foam plate, but much, much slower. My husband couldn’t get them to light. This little guy almost got roasted, too. Life in the country.
We considered marshmallows, only to realize that we’d left them at family’s house the week before when visiting. Heartbreaking, I tell you, heartbreaking. Anyway, so the cardboard and wood started going up, and he got around to the cotton items and they did just fine. But those inserts sat there, not even smoking, until they were covered with a blazing inferno, and then they shriveled up (like plastic) and melted away to nothing. Then we thought, you know, this may not be the best thing to be inhaling, and backed off. Yes, we were fine dealing with cardboard, wood, and even cotton, but once the microfiber started to burn, things got ugly, and that’s when we decided to back off. This is what we’re using in our diapers?
So other than really cool photos of fire and a little bit about our cloth diapering experience, what are you taking away from this? CHOICE. If you need to put new inserts in your diapers after a couple of years, consider prefolds or flats. There may come a time (I certainly have pushed for it, and others are right there with me) that a choice is offered in the future when you purchase pocket diapers: Microfiber or Cotton. I’m not going to lie. Cotton, especially organic cotton or a cotton/hemp blend is going to cost more. But in this instance, the old adage ‘you get what you pay for’ really does apply. I encourage you: choose cotton. Choose natural fibers over something that acts like plastic. Choose something that is good to have against baby’s skin and could be used for many, many years in different forms. Some people are using the diapers that their parents used on them or that their grandparents used on their parents on their own children, or as dust rags for 30 years. No kidding, they last a lifetime!
Have you made the choice to replace microfiber with a more natural choice? What was your experience?
This has been my mantra for a while now. Sometimes I forget and get drawn in by other people’s
stupidity drama. But I’m finding that I want to close a lot of things down. Likes on facebook, etc. Because of how the site is cracking down on non-paying fan pages (for instance there’s a penalty of ‘not sharing with your fans’ if you do certain things… you can’t use the word giveaway, you can’t post a link, you can’t share a picture.) It’s hard to point people to your blog without a link. It’s hard to promote a giveaway without saying you’re having one. If you want to PAY Facebook to boost your post, well then by all means, they’ll SERVE IT to X number more people than they currently do. As it stands, right now they’ll SERVE IT to a few people. If those people engage, e.g. comment, like the status, etc. then it is served to more people. If none of the original SERVED do anything, it is dead in the water. Sometimes 15 people will see a giveaway link out of almost now 1800. That’s insane. A few months ago, all 1800 would see it and be thrilled. Now it feels as if you have to jump through 17 hoops with your pants on fire in order to see what you want. But anything you might hate or facebook thinks you’re interested in, turns into a live video that pops open and starts blaring the minute you scroll past it. Not just once. Every single time. It feels as though facebook is trying to kill the blogger. So anyone and everyone will share the lamest link with the most drama and scandalous garbage JUST to make people engage, so that there’s a chance one of your less popular posts will get viewed. Head, meet wall. Repeat as needed.
I don’t really need anyone else’s insanity, quite frankly, I’m crazy enough for the both of us.
We visited family on the fourth and watched fireworks on the 5th. The kids got their face painted while I worked the library friends booth and chatted. The kids and Matt hung around with some of our friends (and babysitter) until I was done helping. The fireworks were fun and Casey was completely nonplussed. The fireworks were more of a strange sound to her. She didn’t cry. So mellow. Kind of nice not to have a baby cry and have to hide. Mostly she nursed through the whole thing. I think she was more annoyed that I woke her up when taking her off the breast when it was time to go than anything.
***Welcome to the Prefolds to Potty Training Event and Blog Hop, hosted by lo-wren.com and Change-Diapers.com! This event began as a one year cloth diapering anniversary celebration for Lauren last year, but has grown into a celebration of the journey from diapering through potty training. Join us for two-and-a-half weeks of cloth diapering and potty training guest posts, introductions to some amazing products (to help get you through the diaper-potty training journey), two amazing grand prize packages, and a blog hop with fifteen other bloggers giving away cloth diaper and potty training prizes! Be sure to check out (and thank) our amazing grand prize sponsors, and “hop” on over to the other participating blogs via the linky at the bottom of this post. ***
Too hot this summer? Take a break and enter to win this one size pocket diaper that makes you think lime!
This OS Pocket Diaper I used on my first child from birth through potty training. It was my go-to for overnight diapering during that ‘night wetting’ stage after daytime training was done! We called them ‘night-night’ diapers and fit long after some smaller brands were outgrown!
This was my initial blog posting, well the 2nd day anyway, where you first learn about ME, before kids… bwah ha ha. I think I’ll read some more later and share some gems. I was a year from being pregnant then, and had NO IDEA how soon that was all going to .. implode. It’s only taken a bit over 7 years to reach this milestone… Fast forward to now….on the day of our 13th anniversary, our baby was baptized yesterday. Our third baby.. oh how things have changed. I had so many opinions and so many answers! Now, I have fewer opinions and even fewer answers.
So not much has really changed in the last 7 years (ha ha). I mean, I get less sleep, but I’m happier. I have 3 kids and still married to the same guy (who is the father to all the kids, thankyouverymuch) and live in a house out in the country just like ‘we’ve always wanted’.. awesome!…. I still love getting a chance to paint, or cross stitch, or read, or watch birds out the window. On the other hand, I rarely get a chance to do those things because I’m doing things like singing ‘time for your check up’ as I change the baby’s diaper, glare at the 5 year old who is whining, and hugging the 2 year old all at the same time. My hands are full. But so is my heart! So is my heart!
Tell me your story:
We all have a story. Living your life is one thing… but sharing your story is one of the things that makes our lives have meaning. Because we’ve chosen cloth diapering, or it has chosen us based on a situation, such as financial need or illness, it has changed our lives. It has changed our story. While overall your day to day might only be different from ‘next door neighbor’ based on washing and cuteness, for many of us it has become something else. It may not seem radical, but perhaps bit by bit this ‘thing’ has taken over. Perhaps you’re a blogger who earns credits through cloth diaper stores and saves your family $ on diapers and gifts, or maybe you’re an affiliate and that $ goes back into your budget for your older kid’s clothes. Maybe you love to educate others but lack a teaching degree and so you spend time on forums helping other people out. Maybe cloth diapering has spurred you to use cloth napkins or reusable menstrual products or ‘green’ toys or to know where your food is produced or products are made, or to sew or grow your own vegetables. Maybe it’s made you a more confident mom (or dad), maybe the money you saved bought a TV or paid for private education for older children, or put healthier food on the table. Maybe it’s made you a stronger advocate for your child, more aware of social issues and provided help for someone you know. Maybe it just makes your kid (and you) more visible to other people because cloth is ‘different’ and you’ve made a stranger into a friend. Maybe you’ve made 100 ‘invisible friends’ online. However this crazy thing we call ‘modern cloth diapers’ has changed you…I want to encourage you to tell your story…visit my Facebook page, leave a comment. Follow me on feedly.. but share your story with me. Who knows.. we may learn from each other…enjoy my story, and some tips/tricks/hacks I’ve learned on my cloth diapering journey….
My evolution of cloth diapering
The VERY first time I learned about MODERN cloth diapers and wanted to try them. A lot has changed in six years!
When I almost gave up because I had no support and no experience! — I used to care if my kids wore pants INSIDE the house! HA!
My FIRST EXPERIENCE WITH A POCKET DIAPER– I am LAUGHING so hard since now they make up 99% of my stash! Go visit me circa 2008!!!!
Best of the best and reviews!
Best diaper for a newborn? Click HERE to find out (aff link)! It’s my favorite paired with just about anything underneath! Mine have gone through 3 kids and still look like they’re in pretty good shape! Big babies? Go for smalls instead of newborn size! It should get you through until one size diapers fit! Want the play by play of our experience? Go HERE! Want to know whether a cloth diaper is worth it for the newborn stage? I’ve also reviewed a few different styles of newborn diapers HERE!
Best insert to replace microfiber? FABULOUS FLATS!!!! They an inexpensive, long lasting, all around BEST! They can be used for a ton of things. See which ones I’ve compared HERE! They also each have their own review!
What diapers have you reviewed? That’s easy. For all my reviews, go HERE!
Tips, Tricks and Hacks!
What about storage? Click HERE for the answer to my buddy Jutta’s “hack” request!
I have a question about... Try HERE or HERE or HERE or finally HERE! I answered a ton of questions a couple of years ago! I have a lot more experience now, though, and times they are a ‘changing! If you wonder if my answer is still the same on any of these, ask me again and point to which link it was on and I’ll try and update with all my ‘new’ knowledge!
Have you ever? ... if I have it’s probably HERE!
If you read nothing else about cloth diapers, then hop onto this HOP and read what these ladies have to say. Whether it be 1 year or 10, 1 child or 4, we’ve all been there. We’re in the trenches with you. We’ve seen what you will see, had problems you will encounter, and amassed an amazing wealth of knowledge on cloth diapers. So pin this, bookmark it, save a link to any of us in your email, etc. You will want to keep these links! PS There’s an affiliate link in this page and in all the other pages–we’re all affiliates for Kelly’s Closet ^ see the title? Good! It means we know what we’re doing! It’s also a contest, we can earn 225 Diaper Dollar reward points!! <–this means more diapers for baby and/or to giveaway! Speaking of giveaway what’s in store this week? We will be giving away one $100 Gift Certificate via Kelly’s Closet!