About 6 years ago I received a call from someone who I knew a long time ago. I remember the rough time because I was pregnant with my oldest. This person chatted and made several ‘dire’ references. I waited for the other shoe to drop. I was not confident that this person was being truthful. This person then told me that they had cancer. Nearly a year later, I caught up with them on facebook (I think) and sent them a message and asked how treatment was going. They claimed that they were ill and just now getting treatment. There was some talk about involvement with important/vital systems metastasizing and letting their kids ‘be’ with family so they got used to being without them.
All this time later, I almost never hear anything about their journey, they don’t seem to have a wig, and are able to handle a business, single parenthood, side jobs, and lots and lots of trips and such with friends. You’re talking I was pregnant and now I have a 5 year old. It’s been so long… so..how do I approach this person (online) and ask how they are doing given that they appear not to be ill? What if they were lying? Is there a way to ‘fox’ them out without directly doing so? Does it really matter?
Help me out here? What would you do?