1. Are we the same person?? I rarely visit my family and it’s for reasons just like this. My dad kept getting on to me about how my nickname for my son isn’t masculine, all the while referring to him as a “people puppy.” I mean, seriously? Don’t forget about my nearly 24 year old brother who still lives at home, no college education, and no job. Lets try and parent ME, the one who went to college, got married, bought a house, and started a family. I’m clearly the one who needs help.

  2. Valerie

    I feel you, Jill. We now live 40 mins from my parents but we rarely get together. Personally, that’s ok with me. We have nothing in common. Like you, I’m the only one in my family that has a college degree. It took my brother forever to move out of my parents house, and then it was just next door to them. *sigh* Don’t get me started on that one. I struggle with things to say to them when we do get together, and that’s if my dad isn’t glued to the television or computer. Honestly, I enjoy getting together with my inlaws more than I do my family. We have more things to talk about with them. They get excited about things we tell them, rather than the comment “Oh, that’s nice.” Of course my inlaws come with their own set of annoying habits. 😉 I’ve finally come to the understanding that it’s no longer worth my time and energy to stress about it. I’m learning to accept my family and love them for who they are and just smile and nod. 🙂

  3. My family is 5 hours away. We did that on purpose when we moved to Oregon. I love them much better at a distance.

    You may have heard this one before (feel free to stop me) but you don’t get to pick your family. You are stuck with whatever one you get.

    But if you’re not happy being around them and you don’t like the bullshit (and who does, really?) then just… don’t. Don’t spend the holidays there, don’t go hang out for this or that.

    Crazy runs in families. One good thing, if you’re seeing the crazy in everyone else, then it isn’t you?


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