We’re entering a new phase in adjusting to having 2 children. It’s called ‘who started it’… at this point, it’s kind of hard to tell. All the sudden, they’re both screaming joyfully at the top of their lungs and the adults are looking at each other thinking: what have we done?!?.. and do they REALLY have to be that loud in the car? What is there to scream about, anyway?
They want to hug each other, but never at the same time or with the same intensity. The other NEVER takes no for an answer. One tries to just touch, or to push the other away, and suddenly everyone’s upset, including mommy because there’s a tangle of limbs on the floor. Everyone’s yelling. No one is happy. I’m not sure how to get the ‘keep your hands to yourself’ message across. Someone inevitably gets hurt. Even with the best of intentions. “I just wanted a hug” is one I hear a lot. Unfortunately, with a clumsy toddler, it’s hard to know if she’s been pushed or has fallen herself. I don’t have eyes everywhere although I wish I did. At some point I have to go to the bathroom, change out loads of laundry, wash dishes, etc. If I sat on top of the kids all day, I’d never get them washed, fed, clothed, and appropriately ready for life. I do have to keep running the household.. and I put enough of my own needs aside, bathroom usage is not going to stop, too.
Although we do have something rather cute that has just started. The little one likes to sit in a chair. The other day she sat by big sister for a few minutes. Adorable, right?
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Very adorable! And I’m sorry, but I laughed out loud when I read this. You are so right, this stage is impossible! And I hate to tell you, it lasts a LONG time! It’s so normal though. I know it doesn’t help in any way, but I’m telling you how normal it is because it helped me to know “that’s normal” when I started into that stage. And all the others that I think “WHat? Why?” I’m trying not to think about it too much anymore, just do it. Because it is what it is, even if I can’t make sense of “it.” Hugs, my dear friend!
BTW, I don’t want you to think that by telling you that things are normal in your house, I am telling you that you can’t vent about stuff. You totally need and should do so 🙂 Chances are, most any parenting situation you can come up with, there will be PLENTY of moms out there who can share a story with you of something that happened in their family where they felt the same way or dealt with the same stuff. And that’s okay. It’s good to have an army of people you can talk to who understand exactly what you are going through.