Ahh, a Jewel song. How 90’s. Anyway. Yes, my husband has pointed out that I make him look like a jerk on here. In some ways, he really is being a jerk. Or more likely, one of us is a touch jerky and the other comes back with kinda jerky and then we’re both really jerky to each other. Point is we’re under a LOT of stress. Well, I am. If he doesnt pass this class, we’re out a paycheck and a half off the top. That’s almost no money coming in for a month. And he seems to think he should go skipping off to a movie this weekend, when we’ll be gone all day Sunday for mother’s day. He still has to finish catching up on watching his classes online and study. He almost NEVER studies on Friday night as he likes to relax. The move is at 10:30 am an hour away on Saturday. Good luck studying before you have to leave. He has to work on Monday unless he takes ANOTHER whole day off because he’s put it all off and flittered away his time to study by going to the movies and such. I don’t know. I know he’s trying to do it all but obviously can’t. I just don’t get why he can’t slow the fark down on going to movies and crap when he has class stuff to do when he’ll have the whole farkin summer with NOTHING to do but be with me and the baby, no money holding over our heads if he doesnt pass, etc. Maybe it’s just me, but I would think that since he’s already been up this guy’s butt by going to 3 or 4 other movies that he wouldn’t have to go to one when his final is just 3 days away. Whatever. I can’t stop him. And he’s going to say this is mean and probably delete it because he has access to it. But really? HE NEEDS TO STUDY. Sigh. He tells me to stay out of it, but I’ll be the one trying to pay the bills if money doesn’t come in because he failed the class. It doesn’t ‘affect’ me. Right. Not at all dear. Ugh. MEN! Why didn’t our moms tell us how irrational they are right from the start?
“my husband has pointed out that I make him look like a jerk on here. ”
You’re not making him look like anything.
If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck…
He’s acting quite immature, actually.
Honey, I think you both need to settle down a little. Stress changes things a lot. And different people handle things differently. Rob handles stress in a way that absolutely infuriates me, but he can’t handle it any other way. So if he does it my way, it just adds to HIS stress and makes things worse for both of us. I’ve realized over the years that I have to let him figure out his stuff and try to remain calm in the meantime. And if he fails, (which has happened) then the stress that comes after isn’t any worse than the months of stress during which I have the power to avoid. We’re currently further in debt because of some of his mistakes, but I couldn’t have prevented them without making us both crazy (even though I was right), so I let it go. Life goes on and it’s quite happier that way even with the added debt.
Husbands are like kids sometimes. You just have to let them touch the hot stove so they won’t do it again. And you never know, maybe they won’t get burned.
sigh. I know Katie’s right. But its so hard to let go…..