First I have to give out a big yell WOOHOO! because my buddy Trish is expecting baby #1, so I’ll have to set about thinking seriously about farm kid presents… maybe some of those neat-o t-shirts I’ve seen at the farm stores that say ‘farm kid’, hmm.. something.
Anyway, I ran across this with my buddy Stacy, I asked upon the advent of her second baby, if she would be having a baby shower, and she was emphatic that you don’t have a second baby shower. Her first is close to 3, her second is turning 1 this month. Anyway, our church had a baby shower for a first time mom, and at the same time for a 4th time mom (she also has a stepson, for a total of 5 boys) with her last one around 2 years old. The first time mom had a registry with Babies R Us and the other one asked for specific size clothes (her baby was born a few months ago) and a bouncy-thing of some sort. This came in our church new$letter as an announcement.
I emailed and asked my mom about it, and she never replied. It was out of curiousity, not any morbid sense of right and wrong, if that makes any sense. I asked her on the phone today about it and she seemed distinctly uncomfortable answering the question, but she thought that a couple of ladies in the church decided to do baby showers for women in the church that had babies.. of course, that never occured to me, as first time mom is a main church participant. I’ll leave it at that. I assumed it was because she was employed by the church and had been for some time as to why, and I didnt get why they combined showers.
Then my mom said that another lady in the church had given birth last year and they had a shower for her, which either I didnt know or didnt remember. We live 4 hours away, and what little info I get usually goes in one ear and if I feel like it impacts me, it sticks and if it doesnt, then it doesnt. (Thinking about it, it’s kind of nice that church ladies would want to do that for new moms and babies in the church, as church is kind of like extended family, and unless you’re a main church participant, you’re not likely to invite those nice ladies to your baby showers ‘normally.’ ) She also mentioned that if the clothes that 4th time mom had gone through 4 babies (which they didnt obviously as this baby is just #4 now), anyway, that boys are hard on clothes and therefore they were probably worn out… are boys that much harder on clothes than girls when they are 3-6 months old? Are boys clothes made shoddier? Because I’ve seen garage sales where the clothes have been through more than one kid, and they are still wearable.. so I didnt really get where she was going with that…
Anyway, what do you think? Is a second, third or fourth shower ever appropriate? Does time or gender make a difference? (note, I think there’s some confusion, my FRIEND Trish is pregnant, not me) sorry ya’ll! Didnt mean to make you jump to conclusions!